Further to the last post, I wanted to show possibly the most typical situation in a two person relationship, where one takes the traditionally defined male role of decision maker, and the other takes the equivalent female role of social controller.
The male sees a need for change and attempts to either enforce that change or engage in dialogue to achieve the change. The female may agree, but after a lifetime of playing social games is adept at appearing to agree to anything without actually doing so, the ultimate poker player. For the male decisions have to have some durability, you cannot plant beans in March and then rip them out in April to grow carrots.
Dialogue is everything, but it is not just the male of the species who has to change, it is time for the female to learn that controlling a relationship is to put that relationship on the road to divorce or internal separation where the couple stays together but essentially leads separate lives.
Lublin - Traditional Cottage Room
10 years ago
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